i write to keep believing
Someone once told me that my blogging personality was like sweetened, condensed milk. She said it perched on the edge of the swiveling chair just inside the office where I worked. It was late on a Thursday and I was working overtime, filling in for someone on maternity leave, half-distracted, half-exhausted, maybe less than half-hearted. She swiveled, proud of the declaration, or maybe just the uniqueness of her metaphor, I'm not sure which. I must have turned around in an angry kind of way, asked "What?" in that biting tone girls perfect for and against each other, and she stopped twirling, poised to defend her view. "It's not really how it is with you, is it, the stories you tell on your blog? It's just... sweeter."I think tiredness offered me a good reason to accept defeat on the point, so I just nodded and started to close up the office. We didn't talk about it again, but it still lingers, that metaphor, that question - is that really how it is with you - that makes me wonder whether I'm really being honest with anyone who happens to read this. Wonder if, somehow, I'm lying to myself.--Preston, a few years ago - "You have opinions and thoughts. And you should put them out there. Your blog should be a place you explore those things. Edgier." I don't remember the order he said those things, or if he said all of them, or if some are my interpretation mixed with his words mixed with the fog that accompanies memories. I do remember he was Skyping me from his kitchen while he made lunch for a friend of his. I do remember that we were still trying to figure out what being friends would mean to two people who had been so entangled in not-realized-it-yet love letters. I do remember that I was drinking iced green tea with lemon that my mother buys every summer from a plastic cup.I wrote a post in response saying that I couldn't write an edgy post because that wasn't me. Sweetened, condensed milk me.I wonder still whether I should have written about my opinions of education reform.--My counselor and I in a late January evening, the night black and the stars few and far between. Her office is warm and well-light, which makes the night seem blacker as I stare determinedly out the window. "I don't want to talk about it." And her wisdom, always pouring through - "But does anything grow the eating disorder as much as silence? As much as pretending it isn't there?"And so I blog a few posts and whisper in them the fears that feed it, the fears of enough, the fears of how I look and what it means and whether I am beautiful. I don't want to say much more, and I go back week after week saying that I didn't write or I didn't really talk about it, and my counselor, and her wisdom: "But you will know the right places to talk about it, and the right people to talk about it to, won't you?"So I go back to writing about Jesus and the ordinary aches of a heart growing up, I put my one word in front of the other in a steady parade of characters on the screen.--This afternoon, when I've despaired over enough of the workload I have to leave it behind for a few hours, I ask Preston for a writing prompt. He reads me something from Joan Didion, about truth and fact and writing and why she keeps journals and the words dance by me too fast. But I start to think about this blog. Why do I write?I don't write for sweetness. I don't write to make the days drift by in a haze of vague hopefulness or nice feelings.I don't write for edge - I don't think I would even know anymore what that would be, a raw honesty that forgets the truth that spaces are our responsibility, that something belonging to us means we answer for what we bring forth into the world in it.I don't write, even, to keep a journal of what I have and haven't done and accomplished and worked through or where I have or haven't failed or fled.I write, I discover, to keep believing.--I write to fix my hope in the firmness of the Resurrection. I write to hear Jesus calling for me. I write to believe that Jesus is calling for me, to believe that there is a wild calling on my life in the days where I don't believe it. I write so that, in saying it out loud, I can hear it. My heart has a quiet voice sometimes next to the girl in my head with her giant megaphone, and I write to hear over the noise of my life.I write to believe, to keep believing.O Lord, I believe, help thou my unbelief. I don't think I have ever told anyone that's what I pray most of the time when I sit down to blog.Except, now, you.--I don't remember a word of the Joan Didion quote Preston read me. But maybe the point of it wasn't to remember that, but to remember this: that writing is getting quiet enough to hear and believe in Jesus, writing is making my heart louder than my head. And writing is receiving: grace enough.